Does a raised eyebrow from a loved one make your stomach clench? Or does a frown from a coworker compel you to change course when it might not be in your best interest? If so, you have been “corded” with energy, and the cord is being tugged. A cord, as it appears in energy healing, is etheric emotional energy between two people that tends to reflect an entangled codependency of some sort. It may be time for cutting the cords that bind you.

A dramatic example of cording showed up recently with a client. A few months before she was to be married, her then fiancé abruptly broke off the engagement. There was no possibility of resolution for my client, just a very painful severing to accept.

As I navigated different layers of shock and grief in the healing of her energy body, she shared concern about feeling very vulnerable to this man, and was worried she wouldn’t have the strength to make good choices if around him.

A textbook case of cording!

I clairvoyantly scanned her energy body, looking for cords to and from him, and found the expected ones – to her navel point, a place most of us are corded in our intimate relationships, such as to a parent or partner; one in the female side of her third chakra, a place experiencing extreme disempowerment in the situation—and then stood back to look further.

Wow! There must have been 150 cords embedded in her left arm!

I’ve never “seen” anything like it. Her former fiancé was constantly micromanaging her personal power as a woman! The left side of the body from the neck down is the “female side” or the body, and her left arm – her female power—was literally being manipulated into captivity! What was she wearing? Was her makeup OK? Did she present herself well enough? Best to stand up straighter? Maybe look at her hair color and style, is it too diminutive? Etc.

Releasing the Cords

I usually cut cords, sometimes try to heal them, sometimes do forgiveness work around them, or work with mantra, such as repetitive toning of Om Mani Padme Hum, for compassion. In this client’s case, the wisdom said to cut the cords. How could she move forward while waiting for these cords to dissolve by themselves? That could take years.

Cords can be old and festering, with new energies from new people growing around the original wounding cords. They can be new and fresh. They can be wooden, metallic, representing habitual suffering in a relationship. Cords originate in a shared emotional wound –they tend to be mirrors of some sort. We all have them.

Cutting Cords to Start Afresh

My client is feeling genuinely liberated with those relationship cords cut. She now can work on healing her vulnerability that allowed the cording to begin with.

Ideally, our relationships are free-flowing connections that don’t get stuck in eddies and byways of another’s emotional baggage. More often than not, though, over time, there is the creep of expectation and demands based on each other’s emotional trauma. Which expectation belongs to whom slowly but surely fall away and healthy boundaries erode. Cutting cords is a very effective way of starting afresh.